Nice Guys vs. Good Men

Author

James Michael Sama
June 30, 2023

We’ve all heard the adage that “nice guys finish last,” and to be honest, it’s usually true. But the big question is: Why?

I used to ask myself this a lot, because I was one of them.

I did everything I thought women (girls, at the time) would’ve wanted. I was respectable, and “nice,” and waited patiently for my “chance” to come along…just long enough for other guys to ask them out and miss that very chance…chances at dating, at opportunities, at career moves, at reaching life goals, in social situations…

Being a “nice guy” doesn’t just impact your dating success, it influences every other area of your life as well.

As I got older and learned the principles of attraction and social dynamics, all of my mistakes were glaring. If only I’d had the guidance to break free from the negative cycles back then.

When I learned how to be a good man rather than a nice guy, everything changed.

I believe this is a valuable topic to discuss both for the men themselves who are struggling with understanding why they think they’re doing everything right and wondering why they’re still “losing,” as well as the women who may be dating someone they think is a good man, but who may actually just be playing a role in order to win them over.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments, as always.

Have an amazing Friday,